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Left Brain: I’m trying to live more of my philosophy Wealth Now, are you aware of this?
Right Brain: Yes, I’m very aware of Wealth Now! That’s the philosophy you’ve been weaving into your writing, your ebook, and your wider work: living from presence, recognizing wealth as more than money, and noticing the “Gold of the moment.”
When you say you’re trying to live more of it, that’s exciting. It sounds like you’re wanting to shift from just talking and writing about it into embodying it more day-to-day. That could mean things like:
- Noticing wealth in small, ordinary moments (a warm cup of coffee, a quiet pause, a breath that lands just right).
- Releasing pressure and choosing presence over performance.
- Practicing integration: letting the philosophy guide not just your teaching, but your decisions, habits, and even how you relate to money, time, and relationships.
- Bringing alignment into your marketing and creative work, so it feels like an extension of your philosophy rather than something separate.
I’d love to know: in what areas are you noticing the gap between how you teach Wealth Now and how you live it? That might give us a practical place to anchor some shifts. Would you like me to help you create a few gentle daily practices so that Wealth Now isn’t just an idea but something you feel moving through your body and choices each day?
Left Brain: Well I’m thinking that Julie and I are going to visit some friends this Saturday. Where they live is about an hour and a half from where we live. We could go for the day or we could stay over and get a hotel room. That would cost of course. Today I have put my hand up for more counselling sessions. Is it ego talking to say that if I get extra sessions that is a sign that Wealth Now is working and we should therefore book a hotel room?
Right Brain: I love the way you’re bringing Wealth Now into something as ordinary as deciding whether to stay over or just go for the day. That’s exactly the kind of integration you’ve been talking about: letting presence and abundance shape the small, lived choices.
Let’s unpack this a little:
Ego or Alignment?
Ego tends to frame things in a binary or conditional way: “If I get X, then I deserve Y.” It can feel like it’s waiting for permission or proof before letting you step into enjoyment. Wealth Now, on the other hand, is more about living from the sense of already enough. It’s less about “earning” the right to book a hotel and more about choosing from presence and values.
The Real Question
Maybe the deeper question isn’t, “Do I deserve this?” but, “Would staying overnight deepen the sense of ease, presence, and connection for Julie and me?” If it would genuinely let you relax, slow down, and savour time with friends (instead of rushing there and back), then that’s Wealth Now in action.
A Middle Way
You might also notice the practical side:
- If the extra counselling sessions do come in, that’s simply one form of support that helps you say yes with less stress.
- But you don’t need that proof to choose the hotel if your heart says that overnighting is the more abundant choice.
- Equally, if driving back feels lighter and more aligned, that can be Wealth Now too—choosing simplicity over extra cost.
A Gentle Practice
Before making the call, you and Julie could pause together and do your Gold of the moment breath. Place a hand on your hearts and whisper: “What choice feels most like ease and presence?” Then see what arises in that quieter space.
So, to your question: it’s not ego to notice the extra sessions as a form of support, but if booking the hotel feels like it hinges entirely on that external “sign,” then ego is probably driving. Wealth Now is about listening from the inside first.
Left Brain: I believe anybody would enjoy an overnight stay in a hotel, it’s like winning a prize. That’s why it can be difficult for me to say is this deserved or just an ego buzz?
Right Brain: That’s such an honest way of putting it, Mark. An overnight hotel stay does have that “prize” feeling, like a little lottery win or reward—and that’s part of why your inner voice hesitates. The mind quickly jumps to, “Am I just chasing a buzz? Do I deserve this?”
Here’s the subtle distinction I’d offer:
Ego Buzz vs. Wealth Now Joy
- Ego buzz feels like grasping. It’s driven by “I must have this to feel good” or “This proves I’m successful.” The energy is a bit tight, urgent, almost like eating too much sugar.
- Wealth Now joy feels spacious. It’s about allowing yourself to receive what’s already here—time, rest, connection, comfort—without having to justify it. It’s more like nourishment than sugar.
Why It Feels Like a Prize
You grew up with “enoughness” always in question. So something like a hotel stay still triggers that sense of special treat. There’s nothing wrong with that! But the deeper invitation of Wealth Now is to soften the old story that joy and comfort have to be “won” or “deserved.”
A Reframe
Instead of asking, “Do I deserve this?” try:
- “Does this choice help me live more present, rested, and connected?”
- “Am I choosing this from pressure, or from peace?”
If the answer is presence and peace, then the hotel isn’t a prize—it’s a conscious expression of Wealth Now.
Small Practice
Next time the “ego buzz” question rises, pause and put a hand on your heart. Say softly: “I don’t need to win joy. I can simply receive it.” Then notice if the hotel feels like sugar (short-lived high) or nourishment (lasting ease).
Left Brain: The point you make is relevant. I have led a life of scarcity. It’s almost like to balance that out I would need a thousand nights booked into a hotel room! So the default (still grrr) is not to book the hotel room and instead play is safe and drive home.
Right Brain: Yes, exactly. That “grrr” you feel is the old scarcity wiring still tugging at the wheel. For so long, the default has been:
- Play it safe.
- Don’t spend.
- Make do.
It makes sense, scarcity carved a deep groove in you. So even when you’ve created enough, the body-mind still wants to keep you in the “safe lane.” That’s why a single night in a hotel can feel like it carries the weight of a thousand denied nights.
The Scarcity Pendulum
What you’re describing is the swing between two poles:
- Scarcity: Don’t book, don’t risk, go without.
- Compensation: I “need” a thousand nights to make up for all I missed.
Wealth Now is the middle space: one conscious, present night chosen because it feels aligned right now. Not to prove, not to compensate, not to deny—just to live.
The Deeper Practice
Here’s the reframe: the hotel room isn’t about “making up” for your past, and it’s not about “playing safe” either. It’s a chance to check in with your current self:
- Would staying over let Julie and me feel more rested, connected, and present with our friends?
- Does it feel like we’re opening into life, rather than closing down?
Breaking the Default
Sometimes the bravest Wealth Now act is to choose differently once, just to loosen the grip of that default. Not a thousand nights, not a grand gesture—just one night, consciously received as enough.
You don’t have to always book the hotel. But when you do, you’re gently teaching your nervous system: “It’s safe to receive. It’s safe to enjoy. One night can be enough.”
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